By Natalie

I want to blame you for everything.

Because forgiveness is just too much work.

I want to blame you for hurting people I love, but that’s not my fight. It’s theirs.

I want to blame you for my struggle with self worth, and acceptance, but then how would I ever learn to love myself?

I want to blame you for making me think that my husband will be done with me one day, just like you were.

But you didn’t tell me that lie did you? Sure you showed me in your actions. But you never told me that. I believed it for myself. I tell myself that lie everyday. And I really really really want to point a finger at you, and demand an apology because you hurt me. But I don’t think that’d all of a sudden change my mind.

Change doesn’t begin with you, but with me. Because I absolutely refuse to be your victim anymore. And I have to continuously tell myself that. Because honestly, I haven’t quite forgiven you yet. I thought maybe I had. But continuing to blame you is not forgiveness. And I want to be forgiving in my life.

I refuse to sit back and wait for Brandon to disappoint me. Because I am haunted by the idea that I would need to apologize to him on my death bed for not trusting him, due to your mistakes. Those were YOUR mistakes. Not his. I pray for a healthy growing marriage, and I’m never going to get anywhere if I continue to blame you. It’s about me now.

So I’m going to try and stop thinking of you as the reason for all my insecurities, and start thinking of you as someone who is in need of compassion, and forgiveness.

Luckily for me my God is not a God of lies. Luckily for me he designed a husband for me who is commited beyond my understanding. And more full of love for me than I ever felt from you.

2 Comments on Convicted

  1. Tio Papo
    June 26, 2015 at 11:01 pm (3 years ago)

    Beautiful words sweetie as always. I wish I had an answer for you ,but nothing or no body can explain way some men can just forget there children and loose so many beautiful memories. By the same token the Lord provides a wonderful MOTHER that can do the job of both and a titi and uncle that will always be there for all of you. I love you and I’m so proud of you and your sisters that I have no words to describe mi filing.

    • Natalie
      June 27, 2015 at 3:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks for your sweet comments Tio! I am definitely blessed with a wonderful family!


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